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THE WAYS OF HELPING STUDENTS DEVELOP
THEIR SELF ESTEEM
Jolchibekova K.J., Akbayeva K.K.
Taraz state pedagogical institute, Taraz city
The word "esteem" has to do with how you feel about something -- that is, how worthy or
valuable you think it is. So, as you can guess, "self-esteem" has to do with how much you value
yourself or how much you feel you're "worth." People with healthy levels of self-esteem know that
they're worth a lot without being snobby or thinking they're better than other people. Having a
healthy self-esteem is important because when you feel good about yourself, you typically make
smarter choices, you respect yourself, honor yourself, and go after new opportunities. People with a
healthy self-esteem generally live happier lives because they have a more positive view about
themselves.
The nature of man’s self-evaluation has profound effects on his thinking process, emotions,
desires, values, and goals. It is the single most significant key to his behavior. To understand a man
psychologically, one must understand the nature and degree of his self-esteem, and the standards by
which he judges himself. Man experiences his desire for self-esteem as an urgent imperative, as a
basic need. Whether he identifies the issue explicitly or not, he cannot escape the feeling that his
estimate of himself is of life-and-death importance. No one can be indifferent to the question of
how he judges himself; his nature does not allow man that option. [1]
When parents and teachers of young children talk about the need for good self-esteem, they
usually mean that children should have "good feelings" about themselves. With young children,
self-esteem refers to the extent to which they expect to be accepted and valued by the adults and
peers who are important to them. Children with a healthy sense of self-esteem feel that the
important adults in their lives accept them, care about them, and would go out of their way to ensure
that they are safe and well. They feel that those adults would be upset if anything happened to them
and would miss them if they were separated. Children with low self-esteem, on the other hand, feel
that the important adults and peers in their lives do not accept them, do not care about them very
much, and would not go out of their way to ensure their safety and well-being.
During their early years, young children's self-esteem is based largely on their perceptions of
how the important adults in their lives judge them. The extent to which children believe they have
the characteristics valued by the important adults and peers in their lives figures greatly in the
development of self-esteem. For example, in families and communities that value athletic ability
highly, children who excel in athletics are likely to have a high level of self-esteem, whereas
children who are less athletic or who are criticized as being physically inept or clumsy are likely to
suffer from low self-esteem [2]
What exactly is self-esteem?
In psychology, the term self-esteem is used to describe a person's overall sense of self-worth
or personal value.
Self-esteem is often seen as a personality trait, which means that it tends to be stable and
enduring.
Self-esteem can involve a variety of beliefs about the self, such as the appraisal of one's own
appearance, beliefs, emotions, and behaviors.
Components of self-esteem.
There are three key components of self-esteem:
1. Self-esteem is an essential human need that is vital for survival and normal, healthy
development.
2. Self-esteem arises automatically from within based on a person's beliefs and consciousness.
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3. Self-esteem occurs in conjunction with a person's thoughts, behaviors, feelings, and actions
[4;16].
Self-esteem theories.
The need for self-esteem plays an important role in psychologist Abraham Maslow's hierarchy
of needs, which depicts self-esteem as one of the basic human motivations. Maslow suggested that
people need both esteem from other people as well as inner self-respect. Both of these needs must
be fulfilled in order for an individual to grow as a person and achieve self-actualization.
It is important to note that self-esteem is a concept distinct from self-efficacy, which involves
the belief in future actions, performance, or abilities [5].
Why self-esteem matters.
When children feel good about themselves, it sets them up for success — in everything from
school to friendships. Positive feelings like self-acceptance or self-confidence help kids try new
challenges, cope with mistakes, and try again. Taking pride in their abilities and accomplishments
helps kids do their best.
By contrast, kids with low self-esteem might feel unsure of themselves. If they think others
won't accept them, they may not participate as often. They may allow themselves to be treated
poorly and have a hard time standing up for themselves. Kids who don't expect to do well may
avoid challenges, give up easily, or be unable to bounce back from mistakes [6].
For many students, self-confidence is a natural personality trait: You either have it or you
don’t. Confident learners tend to speak more and know how to get their point across. For those
students who aren’t so confident, learning new material can feel like swimming upstream. These
students are always questioning their abilities and tend to shy away from answering questions.
Confidence can also be taught via some creative teaching strategies. We as teachers have a
powerful influence on our students, and we can help them feel confident and proud of themselves
and their accomplishments. We can help them feel secure enough that they are willing and able to
learn new material.
Here are a few teaching strategies to do just that.
1. Offer praise and acknowledge students’ accomplishments, both in private and in front of
their classmates. Always start with a positive statement, and then you can add on by referring to
what they need to work on.
2. Try not to correct every single thing the student says wrong. Do not interrupt the student
when they are talking to correct them -- this will harm their confidence, not boost it.
3. Set attainable goals from the start of the year. This is a surefire way for students to see how
much they have grown.
4. Give students the opportunity to choose what they learn -- this will help them build their
self-worth. Try a learning menu or choice board where students get to choose which activities they
want to learn about.
5. Be sure to always express a positive attitude to all of your students. This will show them
that you are on their side, and that they are worth your attention.
6. Create opportunities for students to succeed by building on their strengths. If a student
knows a lot of information about something, ask them to tell you about it. ―I am unfamiliar with
how the new gaming system works, can you please explain it to me?‖ Asking students for their help
is a great confidence boost to their ego.
7. Encourage students to do better than they did before. For example, if Brady got a B on his
science test, encourage him to get an A this time. It’s important for students to compete against
themselves not their classmates.
8. Keep a log of how well all students are doing, and what they are good at and what they need
to work on. This careful monitoring will help you catch problems as they arise [7;25].
What teachers can do.
1. Praise the student in a specific and genuine way. Students are experts at distinguishing
genuine feedback from empty compliments. They learn to dismiss vague words of praise as
insincere, and perhaps even phony. Comments that suggest thoughtful appreciation of their work,
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